Learning

Looking after our mental health and wellbeing

One of the most important things we can do…

… is to look after our mental health in just the same way as we look after our physical health.

This is perhaps ever more important as we face up to the disruptions caused by COVID and the negative side of our access and use of the internet and social media. This page is all about finding the help that we need. There is a link to Claire Daniels, our Home School Link Worker (HSLW) and so much more. Please use the links for useful ideas and resources – we will keep adding things…

Mental Health 24 hour helpline

A new 24/7 mental health crisis line for children, young people and their families and carers in Surrey has launched.

24/7 mental health crisis line for children, young people, and families

A new 24/7 mental health crisis line for children, young people and their families and carers in Surrey has launched.

The freephone number – 0800 9154644 – is available for children and young people up to the age of 18, including those with Special Educational Needs and Disability (SEND).

The new crisis line provides emotional wellbeing support, advice, and signposting to a range of community services for children, young people and their families and carers who are in a mental health crisis. The number is available to those who are already receiving mental health services, and also for those who are not. No referral is needed.

The crisis line is staffed by a team of experienced, trained call handlers and mental health nurses.

A key aim of the crisis line is to help support young people, carers and families within their own homes and in the community and, whenever possible, help avoid the need for children and young people to go to hospital in a crisis.

Get help in a mental health crisis :: Surrey and Borders Partnership NHS Foundation Trust (sabp.nhs.uk)

Developing our Parenting Styles and Skills

What are the Parenting Styles?

The four parenting styles (Authoritative; Authoritarian; Permissive and Uninvolved) are based originally on the work of Diana Baumrind, a developmental psychologist who identified a close relationship between the type of parenting style and our children’s behaviour. Different parenting styles can lead to different development and outcomes for our children. The Authoritative Parenting style is associated with the most positive outcomes for our children.

Which Parenting Courses are available to me?

Parenting can be stimulating and rewarding, challenging and stressful and we can all benefit from new ideas, some space to share and reflect, or even a chance to start thinking ahead to the next stage of our parenting journey – we all have experiences to share and tips we can learn.

For virtual/group courses the local Family Centre, Hazel Avenue run the 4-session ‘Parenting Puzzle’ (based on the Family Links training). For further details please contact the Family Centre on: 01483 566589 or email them on: cc@guildfordnscc.surrey.sch.uk

For other Parenting courses please visit:

Surrey Parenting courses

Free online Parenting courses are available and offer helpful insight into your baby, child or teenager’s behaviour:

Parenting courses and advice – online guides

And the ‘Family Lives’ website provides excellent information and support on all aspects of Parenting and Children’s behaviour:

Family Lives website

Emotion Coaching

Please watch this short webinar about this approach to dealing with issues in the family setting. This is the approach we use in school.

Developing Resilience with our children

Why is Resilience important?

When we talk about resilience, we’re talking about a child’s ability to cope with ups and downs, and bounce back from the challenges they experience during childhood – for example moving home, changing schools or dealing with the death of a loved one. Building resilience helps our children not only to deal with current difficulties that are a part of everyday life, but also to develop the basic skills and habits that will help them deal with challenges later in life, during adolescence and adulthood and supports their positive mental health and wellbeing.

For more information on Resilience and the ‘Resilience Framework’ please visit the following websites:

Young Minds and Boing Boing

I’m worried about my child’s eating habits

Action for Children

I’m worried about my child’s eating habits (Action for Children)

Everyone has different eating habits. But if you’re worried about your child’s relationship with food or their body, it might be worth looking for some support.

If your child’s eating habits negatively affect their everyday life, they may have an eating disorder. This is when someone uses food to cope with certain situations or feelings. Teenagers between 13 and 17 are most at risk, but anyone can have an eating disorder.

It can be helpful to know the signs and what to do if you’re worried about your child.

Read more: https://parents.actionforchildren.org.uk/mental-health-wellbeing/self-esteem/child-eating-habits-disorder/ 

Transition to secondary school

Support and readiness

As we come to the end of the year, a lot of work is put in place to ensure a positive and successful transition for all the children to secondary school. All the children follow the Smart Moves programme with additional support for those feeling less confident. A webinar for all parents on our approach is below

Additional support is available from the following websites:

https://www.bbc.co.uk/bitesize/tags/zh4wy9q/starting-secondary-school/1

https://www.place2be.org.uk/our-services/parents-and-carers/getting-ready-to-start-secondary-or-high-school/

https://www.theschoolrun.com/moving-onto-secondary-school-with-sen

https://www.tes.com/news/transition-secondary-school-5-tips-help-parents

https://www.place2be.org.uk/about-us/news-and-blogs/2020/june/the-art-room-and-bafta-kids-launch-project-to-support-pupils-with-move-to-secondary-school/

Making S=P+A+C+E for ME Parent Workshop in Lockdown - Resources

Mental Health Week, 2nd February 2021

Here is a recording of the presentation given at the Parent workshop and all the other resources mentioned in the workshop. The websites mentioned are all linked above. Any questions or concerns please raise them with the team:

Mr Lewin – mrlewin@st-thomas.surrey.sch.uk

Mrs Carter – mrscarter@st-thomas.surrey.sch.uk

Mrs Daniels – hslw@st-thomas.surrey.sch.uk

Lockdown Mental Health – tips for helping your child, a bbc clip: https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/av/education-55620288

Helpful posters for dealing with mental health in lockdown:

01 8 ways to help children struggling during lockdown

02 10 things to say instead of stop crying

03 The emotional Cup

04 Anxiety presents itself in many different ways

05 The stress relief Giraffe

06 Managing stress

07 Support your child’s wellbeing while schools are closed

08 Types of self care

09 Self care and mental health for children

Supporting your child's mental health and wellbeing in the midst of home schooling and National Lockdown 2021

by Ali Damario, Xavier Educational Psychologist

Great webinar on dealing with anxiety

by Ali Damario, Xavier Educational Psychologist

Important Sources of help and advice

If you are worried about your safety or the safety of someone you know

https://www.refuge.org.uk/
https://www.womensaid.org.uk/
https://www.nspcc.org.uk/
https://www.surreycc.gov.uk/social-care-and-health/childrens-social-care/contact-childrens-services
emergency@xavier.cet.org

Follow this link for help around Domestic Abuse

Important Sources of help and advice

If you are struggling financially

https://www.gov.uk/apply-universal-credit
https://www.swru.org/covid-19-updates/
https://www.cathchild.org.uk/
Surrey County Council have set up a Community Helpline number0300 200 1008 (Monday to Friday, 9am to 5pm)
https://www.cpg.church/

The Guildford food banks are still operating but closed to individuals – if you need them you need a referral which the school can make on your behalf. If this affects you PLEASE contact Mr Lewin on mrlewin@st-thomas.surrey.sch.uk and we will help.

Mr Lewin has a Hardship Fund to help with covering food costs and essentials, including school uniform and other costs. PLEASE do not be embarrassed to email him with a request for help in confidence.  (Thank you to every one who has contributed to the Fund, God bless you)

Important Sources of help and advice

If you are worried about what to do if you or a family member has coronavirus

https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/coronavirus-covid-19/

Our School Information

Government Guide for parents